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Relationship Expert Offers Advice For Dating Right

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Being single around the holidays can be a real drag. We all know someone, maybe even ourselves, who want to get married. However, we go from relationship to relationship and never commit. Then, right after we break up with our significant other, he or she goes and marries the next boyfriend or girlfriend.

Here to shed light on dating and help us fix bad patterns is Doctor Monica Mandell, a psychologist and relationship guru with Selective Search, a matchmaking company that matches women to men who are ready to be married.

Dr. Mandell explains to us what many are doing wrong and how to fix it.

"People stay in the wrong relationship because of many reasons," she explains. "One is, you are afraid to be on your own, and especially right now with all of the holidays coming up; that makes sense. Also, when you are with someone for a long time, you just don't want to hurt them. So that is another reason this is to not break up. Also, your family, your friends, everyone gets along. You are not just breaking up two of you; you are literally breaking up a social circle. That is why people stay in it for the wrong reasons and ultimately, they do break up."

How do you prevent repeating the same pattern of staying in wrong relationships? Dr. Mandell suggests being aware of deal breakers. Couples often fight about money. Couples also fight about religion and education of the kids. Another thing is to figure out where to live. Long distance relationships are happening more and more, and eventually, one member needs to compromise. Therefore, know in your heart what lifestyle you're looking for and what is going to make you happy.

"You have to be honest and get this out of the way real quickly in the first few months of a relationship," said Dr. Mandell.

Watch the whole segment above to get more advice. The bottom line, according to Dr. Mandell is, "You don't want to be one of the 53 % that ends up in a divorce."

Dr. Mandell writes a column for the Philly Post.

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